Romancing the Groom

By: Marissa Bouchér Owner of The Boudoir Divas

My job as a boudoir photographer has been in hearing romantic stories, celebrating with the bride and taking gorgeous photos that mark a time in her life that will go unrivaled. Boudoir photos have now been the go-to gift to give the groom on the wedding day. I adore creating these images that make the bride feel the best she EVER has, comfortable and sexy in her own skin to mark this new chapter of her life. Having this privilege has turned me into quite the romantic, it’s gotten me to mull over how to celebrate such a special time in a couple’s life to the fullest.

Weddings can be a stressful event. We all say we won’t be that bride who flips out over little things, loses sight of the big picture here and there and drives her groom crazy with details he doesn’t care about… but, hey, we do. It’s just the way it goes. This goal that all brides have, coupled with what we do as boudoir photographers, gets me thinking about how to remind the groom the real reason of this event that we both hold so dear in our hearts. The commitment we are making. Leading up to the day where a bride and groom confess powerful vows in front of their friends and family, what can a brides do to keep their grooms feeling centered, appreciated and above all cherished? This isn’t just about us ladies.

At The Boudoir Divas we brainstormed what a bride could do additionally to her boudoir shoot to make her man “feel her love” in the words of Bob Dylan (reference our song lyric ideas!). Together us ladies decided that we think the sweetest thing a girl could tack on to her shoot is love letters to her groom.

Here are some ideas we have to speak to his heart generously

• song lyrics
• famous love poems
• favorite quotes or scripture
• memories of when you fell in love
• a recap of your first date
• a line from a movie you both love
• a page pulled out of your favorite love story
• detailed description about your favorite moment together
• what you are most looking forward to about being married
• why you are looking forward to be a part of his family
• top ten things you love about him personally
• top ten cute things you love about him physically

Now ladies, don’t be discouraged if your guy gets a tad bashful or acts aloof to this gift. That’s just how they are. Sometimes they act that way when they are given their gorgeous, sexy photos. It’s just the way they are wired. Overly romantic gestures make them want to run to their man cave…however, we don’t doubt for a second that even if he blushes and shyly says thank you, that this didn’t speak to him in powerful ways.

Written by Marissa Boucher. Owner of The Boudoir Divas, a studio in San Diego dedicated to giving every woman the ultimate supermodel experience.